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Master Your Goals With One Easy Trick

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Master Your Goals With One Easy Trick


You become like the five people you spend the most time with.
This is something that was stressed to me when I was younger but I think as we grow up, we forget this important piece of advice. We get comfortable with the daily routine and get used to doing the same behaviors over and over. For most of us, we spend most of our time with coworkers and other people who are already a part of our daily routine. This can be good if you enjoy the people you work with and they are like-minded, with similar passions in life.  If for some reason you aren’t the biggest fan of your coworkers, then you need to make time in your week to create a friend group that is passionate about achieving goals that can help each other with roadblocks and struggles.

 

The best thing I’ve done for myself in the last 3 years is making time every couple of weeks to have a conversation with my friends about our current goals. This isn’t a formal meeting. It typically is accompanied with some type of causal activity, such as board games, golf, video games, or dinner. You can pick any activity that you enjoy as long as there can be room for conversation. Sharing your dreams, goals, downfalls, and triumphs can be difficult. It would be easier to just have a few drinks, get rowdy, and try to forget about the stresses of the day. This sounds fun, but will only give you short term relief from anxiety and stress.

 

The minor stress you may have from expressing your goals and dreams will help eliminate future stresses and anxiety. Verbalizing your dreams and goals and getting feedback from your friends will do a few things for you:

  • Help you hold yourself accountable for your action steps
  • Give you constructive criticism
  • Offer ways to help
  • Help you understand exactly what you want from life

The type of stress that creates positive change in your life is called eustress. In order to make positive changes in your life you have to make a habit of creating eustress and eliminate distress. Distress is the stress associated with anxiety, pain, and sorrow. If your current group of friends have a different path or outlook on life, that’s ok.  You can find like-minded people online very easily.


 

These groups are called Mastermind Groups. Mastermind groups are like-minded people with common goals. They meet in person, over skype, in chat rooms, or on other meeting software. The meetings are usually structured to make sure time is not wasted and everyone benefits. A mastermind typically looks like this:

 

Beginning

  • Each member talks about progress they’ve made on their goals from the previous meetings.

Middle

  • One of the members will talk about their issues, questions, concerns, and other experiences they have encountered while working towards their goal. Other members respond and give feedback to the discussion based on their experiences and knowledge.

End

  • Each member comes up with a list of things they are going to achieve by the next Mastermind Meeting. One of the members is chosen to share their experiences for the next meeting so they can be ready.

 

You can create a Mastermind Group with your current group of friends, like I have done. If you don’t think your friends would be interested in a Mastermind Group, you can find like-minded people on sites like meetup.com. Facebook, Craigslist or other social media sites are also great resources to meet people.

The path to self betterment is lined with the people you surround yourself with. Surround yourself with idiots and you seem smart. Surround yourself with intelligent people and you’ll become one of them.

Tanner LaBelle
Tanner LaBelle

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